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		<title>Whatever happened to agreeing to disagree?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m really frustrated and I have a feeling I will be for the next 4 years.  My frustration?  People who can&#8217;t accept that others disagree with them and want to force them into their point of view.  If I disagree with someone, I try to articulate my point of view and we can have a discussion but eventually if the disagreement continues you have to agree to disagree.  I&#8217;m amazed at the amount of people these days who can&#8217;t do this simple thing that most of us were taught growing up.  It seems some people just will never accept that you do not agree with them and think the more and more they come at you, that eventually you will come to their side of the argument.  On the contrary, the more and more you come at me after it&#8217;s an obvious ideological divide, the more I will be irritated with you for not being able to recognize the impasse we have reached.  Which in turn I feel reflects on your maturity level in that you can&#8217;t see that someone might think differently than you.  That&#8217;s not to say you think I am right, but to think that no other points but yours have merit to anyone else is a very arrogant and egotistical viewpoint.  Have I mentioned I can&#8217;t stand arrogance and large egos? <img src='http://www.thearnesens.com/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' /></p>
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		<title>Crossroads</title>
		<description><![CDATA[<p>So first thing&#8217;s first, it&#8217;s been a LONG TIME  (almost 2 years!) since Richard or I have posted to our blog.  We let a lot of things go to the wayside in the last few years and this certainly was one of those things.  What can I really say about it?  Well there was a lot of changes going on in our lives, both good and bad.  My mom&#8217;s death kept me reeling for quite some time and I can&#8217;t say that I miss her any less today than I did the day after she died, you just learn to cope differently.  Richard got promoted and then changed positions twice in the last few years.  He officially starts his newest position in about two weeks.  We removed ourselves from an organization that we felt was unhealthy for us to be involved in and I don&#8217;t regret that decision.  It was a hard one for us though because we had been with the organization for quite a while and believed in it&#8217;s purpose even if we didn&#8217;t agree with the direction it was going.  Sometimes it can be pretty hard to face the way things are compared to they way things once were or the way you wish them to be.</p>
<p>On a positive front, Richard&#8217;s change in positions gave us the time this last year to get a few things done around the house that needed to be done but were constantly putting off because we didn&#8217;t have the time.  We also had the time to do a couple home improvement projects that we had been wanting to do for some time.  It is good that Richard switched positions when he did because we found ourselves taking care of my dad alot this last year.  He had to have 4 surgeries/5 procedures this past year and needed a lot of help at times.  He even had to go into a nursing home for a short period of time but he&#8217;s back at home, done with rehab and getting around as well as can be expected and I thank God for that.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s the beginning of a new year and we find ourselves yet again at a crossroads.  We&#8217;re making positive changes in our lives for our future and we are excited about those. We&#8217;re working on changing our lifestyles and our environment to be one where there is less stress, more peace and a healthier, happier Richard and Mindi.  We find ourselves evaluating the things in our lives and the importance of them.  Things that used to be very important to us are not so much anymore.  And things that got pushed to the side previously are now front and center.  Again we are in a position to possibly cut some strings to things that are weighing us down but were once very emotionally attached to&#8230;and although making those decisions can be painful, living in those situations are even more painful.</p>
<p>We&#8217;ve determined to change our lives this year for the better and to do that is not always easy, but I have no doubt it will be rewarding.   I&#8217;ll leave you with a quote Richard likes that he applies to his job, but I think it&#8217;s a good one for life in general:  Change is inevitable.  How you deal with change is controllable.</p>
<p>Current Mood: Reflective</p>
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		<title>Big brother is watching</title>
		<description><![CDATA[<p>How long until this becomes the industry standard just like pre-employment drug screening.</p>
<p><a href="http://news.ft.com/cms/s/ec414700-9bf4-11da-8baa-0000779e2340.html">http://news.ft.com/cms/s/ec414700-9bf4-11da-8baa-0000779e2340.html</a></p>
<p>A couple of questions:</p>
<p>Is there a way to easily remove these from employees?</p>
<p>Is there any way that a criminal could scan these in a way to know who has access to critical company resources and use that to gain entry to these same resources?</p>
<p>I guess something like this would at least make time tracking a thing of the past.  Employers of the future will know EXACTLY what you are doing, and where, all day long.</p>
<p>Hyperbole?  Sure, but as this becomes more accepted then the extremes get closer to reality.</p>
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		<title>Long time no see</title>
		<description><![CDATA[<p>I was reminded today that I haven&#8217;t updated the blog in a LONG time so I thought I would do that.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s been a long year for Mindi and I.  We experienced a lot of death with her Grandmother, my Grandfather, and her Mom dying in the last year or so.  We also have also had our faith tested in people as we have witnessed ever rising levels of stupidity in some of the organizations we are involved in.  I have also personally seen many lows this year including some dark periods at my job earlier last year. </p>
<p>But I think we are making some headway and I think we are probably happier now than we have been in some time.  We finally extricated ourselves from a self destructive involvement in online community full of two faced people who only care about themselves (with some exceptions of course).  I finally received the payoff for the last 3.5 years worth of the hardest work in my life with a promotion to Supervisor of the team I have worked on for the last few years.  To be honest it is an honor considering the high profile nature of my job and the incredible team I work with.  Mindi and I finally have finally gotten our home life a little back in order.  More of that will come once I am on 1rst shift in the next few months.  We have finally had to make some tough choices about our spiritual and volunteer lives that we will probably be acting on soon.  I also feel we are on the beginning of period where we will get control over our finances and our weight issues due to changes that will be coming in our lives very soon.</p>
<p>Personally I am optimistic if not a bit stressed right now but this is the good kind of stress.</p>
<p>One thing I did realize after breaking through the clouds a few months ago is that I have been miserable for at least a year and I just didn&#8217;t realize it until recently.  We&#8217;re still not where we want to be but I feel closer to Mindi then I have in awhile and I feel we are starting to get our lives as  a couple in order.</p>
<p>I am looking forward to the future and I am glad I have my wife to share it with me.  She is the best thing that has ever happened to me.</p>
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		<title>Planned Parenthood exploiting hurricane Katrina</title>
		<description><![CDATA[<p>Well, it seems Planned Parenthood has sunk to a new low.  </p>
<p>http://www.lifenews.com/nat1597.html</p>
<p>Excerpt: </p>
<p>Under a headline &#8220;Help Those Affected by the Hurricane,&#8221; Planned Parenthood admits that &#8220;100% of your tax-deductible contribution will go directly to helping Planned Parenthood affiliates.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Your support is particularly important right now because Planned Parenthood is facing a truly tremendous number of challenges in the courtrooms, in Washington, D.C., and in our clinics,&#8221; the abortion business says on the hurricane donation page.</p>
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		<title>Talented People</title>
		<description><![CDATA[<p>Mindi&#8217;s right about our frustration with a lot of the elements in our life.  But tonight I was reminded of how talented the folks I work with really are.  Around 15:30 today we began to have issues with PC&#8217;s in our environment that were later traced back to the follow issue:</p>
<p><a href="http://securityresponse.symantec.com/avcenter/venc/data/w32.zotob.e.html">http://securityresponse.symantec.com/avcenter/venc/data/w32.zotob.e.html</a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.trendmicro.com/vinfo/virusencyclo/default5.asp?VName=WORM%5FRBOT%2ECBQ&#038;VSect=T">http://www.trendmicro.com/vinfo/virusencyclo/default5.asp?VName=WORM%5FRBOT%2ECBQ&#038;VSect=T</a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.cnn.com/2005/TECH/internet/08/16/computer.worm/index.html">http://www.cnn.com/2005/TECH/internet/08/16/computer.worm/index.html</a></p>
<p>Again I doomed my workplace by sending out a warning email that we need to patch on this issue soon.  Every time I do that we seem to get infected quickly.  Our team pulled together quickly and resolved all of the issues caused by this issue.  Myself and a co-worker did a lot of work to track down the actual worm infection, even before it was reported anywhere.  This same co-worker managed to write a program, in a very short period of time, that actually cleaned infected PC&#8217;s.  Granted our job is application support, not desktop or server support, but we managed to find the root cause before anyone else could.  We also pulled together a large number of IT Teams to quickly get all servers patches and back in operation with minimal impact to our customers.</p>
<p>In short I was reminded of how talented and resourceful our team is, and how in debt our company is to all of us.</p>
<p>It also reminded me of what it is like to work with a group of competent folks who strive for excellence.  It is such a stark contrast to the people Mindi and I have been struggling with for some time.  It gives me hope that we can eventually get to that point together in our non professional causes.  But even with all of that said, the hope seems dim at times when we have to deal with the things we have had to deal with recently&#8230;..</p>
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		<title>Frustration</title>
		<description><![CDATA[<p>Ever have one of those times in your life where you feel totally out of sorts?  Well Richard and I are in one of those times.  We are people who tend to over-extend ourselves, we have a lot of ideas and *generally* work well together. <img src='http://www.thearnesens.com/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' />  However, we have recognized that we do tend to be super busy and are striving to bring some things back into balance.  All work and no play and all that. Plus, we want the things we do participate in to have meaning and be fruitful to the causes in which we believe.  </p>
<p>Now here is the hard part, what do we get rid of and how do we extricate ourselves from things that we were once committed to, but seem to be no longer functioning well or giving any benefit?  And by benefit, I don&#8217;t mean benefit to us, but benefit to the purpose of the activity.  Here is where the problem that we face lies.  As a Christian it is very hard sometimes to draw the line when enough is enough.  Admittedly, Richard is easier at this than I am.  I have a very strong sense of commitment and it&#8217;s very hard for me to extricate myself from anything I feel I made a commitment to, no matter how invalid or dysfunctional that thing now has become.   But I would say overall we are not people who take commitment lightly and try to hang in there through good times and bad.</p>
<p>Our frustration with some of the activities in which we are involved is astronomical at this point. Between seeing little or no results, both to the issues that plague the activities and the activities&#8217; purpose, and dealing with incompetent people, we feel our talents are best served in other arenas.  At the same time, we worry that if we leave those activities that there will be no one to pick up the slack.  And if that is the reason we have stayed, is that a valid reason to continue beating our heads against a brick wall?  At what point is it best to start pursuing other activities to achieve the same goals and leave behind the activities that just aren&#8217;t working?  At what point to do we have to remove ourselves from the personal aspects of those activities and take a hard look at the practical achievements of those activities? These are our dilemmas.</p>
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		<title>Divine Justice?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[<p>Well as many of you know, the Supreme Court recently said that city government can take your land from one private owner and give it to another to get greater tax revenue or other economic benefits.  With this is mind, Logan Darrow Clements, CEO of Freestar Media, LLC, faxed a request yesterday to the Code Enforcement Officer in Weare, New Hampshire seeking to start the application process to build a hotel at 34 Cilley Hill Road, the location of Supreme Court Justice David H. Souter&#8217;s home. </p>
<p>A quote from the press release about the hotel states:</p>
<p>The proposed development, called &#8220;The Lost Liberty Hotel&#8221; will feature the &#8220;Just Desserts CafÃ©&#8221; and include a museum, open to the public, featuring a permanent exhibit on the loss of freedom in America. Instead of a Gideon&#8217;s Bible each guest will receive a free copy of Ayn Rand&#8217;s novel &#8220;Atlas Shrugged.&#8221;</p>
<p>To read the full press release go <a href="http://www.freestarmedia.com/hotellostliberty2.html">here</a>.</p>
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		<title>Broken</title>
		<description><![CDATA[<p>Broken.  That&#8217;s the word that perfectly describes how I feel.  I feel like I am broken inside, my life is broken, my heart is broken&#8230;I&#8217;M BROKEN.  Nothing is the same without my mom and nothing and no one can ever &#8216;fix&#8217; that.  How do I move on from losing my mom who means so much to me and was so much a part of my everyday life?  I may not have seen her every day but I talked to her every day on the phone at least once, normally several times before the day was over.   She instilled in me my love of crafts, of playing games, of being generous, of not being afraid to be different, of being selfless, of not being afraid to try new things, etc&#8230;..she made me the person I am today.  How does one get over losing that person in your life?  This weekend I spend my first birthday, my 30th birthday, without my mother and no matter how hard I try, it is anything but happy.</p>
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		<title>My Best Friend-My Mother</title>
		<description><![CDATA[<p>Many of you may be wondering where we have been and why we haven&#8217;t been posting.  To be totally honest, I haven&#8217;t felt like writing.  You see my mom passed away suddenly on April 21st and I don&#8217;t know if I will ever fully recover from it.  My mother was more than just my mom-she was my best friend, my hero and, most importantly, my heart.  I&#8217;m use to talking to her every day, if not several times a day, about anything and everything.  My mom was a wonderful woman with a heart bigger than anyone I have ever known and I hope I can be even half the woman she was.  The biggest compliment that anyone can ever give me is to say that I am like my mother.<br />
<img src="http://www.thearnesens.com/gallery/data/media/7/mom.jpg" alt="Mom" /><br />
<em>Mom, I love you and I miss you terribly.  Words could never express the depths of my sorrow right now, nor could they ever describe the greatness of my love  for you.  You will live on in my heart forever&#8230;&#8230;</em></p>
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